I'm not about to waste my time nor his. Over time you dump more and more emotional energy and build this ideal picture of her in your mind. It happens a couple times and you're at a real disadvantage for anything that involves networking. She reaps all the benefits by having you as her fill-in boyfriend while you chase her around like a lost puppy dog. Anonymous How do I handle this??
He also said "I don't know what's in store for us in the future
I said "no" to "let's just be friends?"
So at the end of our conversation he asked if we could "just be friends" because he loves x, y, and z about me and thinks I'm beautiful and ambitious and blah blah blah Don't be his backup. I'm also with crush: It's random chemical nonsense that you can't choose to turn off or on. I know it sucks, but move on. The experience did not settle with me until much later in life when those same heartstrings were tugged on like a lifeless marrionette. He tried his best.